Assfluencers, Pursuit of Perfection, and Social Media Narcissism

Let’s raise the bar on who we call influencers.

Practically Social


Did you get sucked in? You clicked on that picture of the person you thought was attractive- one time, and now you have an endless feed of traditionally attractive people flexing, posing, soliciting you, or talking about their sponsors and jet-set life style. Puppy or cat videos? Motivational quotes set to music? Same deal.

If you’re a content creator who sets out to create meaningful content, these words are for you, and especially for writers.

The therapy stand at Disney Land

As a content creator on YouTube, Medium, and Instagram, I spend some time posting, networking, and sharing my thoughts, views, and humor. Naturally, I sometimes have to use these platforms to announce my content, and I often regret the distractions I’m greeted with when I open the apps.

Whenever I open Instagram, my “feed” is filled with pictures and reels of others’ content.

I’d be lying if I said I’ve never glanced at a video of a women doing yoga. However, now Instagram seems to think that I mainly care about women shaking their butt, dancing around saying that they’re “beautiful enough for me today,” and just about anything where the beauty premium gets views. It’s quite annoying to me.

Robots don’t understand my complexity goes beyond what’s in the Levi’s.

Secondly, there’s a lot more butt-shaking, mediocrity, idiocy, and showmanship than I ever wanted to view. There are a million ways to waste five minutes of your life, and you can’t get them back.

A friend of mine made an analogy for my therapy and social issue based content. “The Therapy Stand at Disneyland.” His equation is that people go on social media and YouTube for entertainment and titillation. They’re not there to “face deep personal change and what that entails.” I get it, he’s right in many ways.

I’m not writing this because I’m jealous.

Today’s rant pertains to the content on Instagram and other media (as a verifiable junior older man) and to speculate about what it says about the direction of our future.

What is the problem here? Is it just that robots are in charge of delivering content, or is the slim percentage of this type of content rising to the top because we’ve become this…



Practically Social

Licensed clinical therapist and social worker. Host of the mildly edited Practically Social channel. Catalyst, deep diver, Dad.